In Person Therapy in Long Beach & Virtually Across California
Therapy for Healthier, More Secure Relationships
Happy you found me! I'm Nicole!You don't need to have a traumatic past to struggle in relationships.
Maybe you had loving parents. Maybe your childhood was pretty normal.
And yet, you still find yourself overthinking, second-guessing your feelings, losing yourself in relationships, or repeating patterns you promised yourself you wouldn't repeat.
You're ready to...
Stop overthinking every text, conversation, and change in someone's behavior.
Trust your own judgment instead of constantly looking outside yourself for reassurance.
Understand why you keep getting pulled toward relationships that don't feel good.
Learn how to communicate what you need without feeling needy, difficult, or too much.
Set boundaries without immediately feeling guilty.
Stay connected to yourself while you're connected to someone else.
Recognize what a healthy, secure relationship actually looks and feels like.
Feel calmer and more confident when you're dating or in a relationship.
Build a deeper relationship with yourself so you can make choices from self-trust instead of fear.
How we'll work together
I explore your history of relationships, including the patterns you've experienced in dating, family, friendships, and past partnerships. We'll look at what you've learned about love, trust, conflict, closeness, and your own needs along the way.
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We'll map the protective parts you've developed that may be trying to keep you safe. The part that overthinks. The part that needs reassurance. The part that wants to run. The part that keeps the peace. The part that says, "Don't ask for too much."
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I'll also teach you practical exercises you can actually use outside of our sessions to calm your nervous system, notice what's happening internally, communicate more clearly, and build a deeper relationship with yourself.
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Reach out.
1. First schedule a call with me. We will talk about what you are hoping to get out of therapy, give you space to express concerns, ask questions, and explore to see if I am a good fit to work with you.
Schedule Your Intake.
2. You can choose to schedule your first appointment with me during our call or if you decide you need some time, you can reach out by email. You will then receive a “welcome email”, with all the details you need to feel prepared for your first session.
Work Together.
3. We'll work together to set goals and craft a roadmap for Therapy, outlining the steps we'll take together to help you thrive and grow.
It's time to start feeling more secure in your actual life.
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No. You don't need a traumatic childhood or a major event to have relationship patterns you'd like to understand and change. You may have had loving parents and a pretty normal upbringing and still struggle with anxiety, self-doubt, boundaries, or relationships. Therapy can help you understand where your patterns come from and learn new ways of relating to yourself and others.
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If you find yourself repeatedly overthinking relationships, choosing similar types of partners, losing yourself in relationships, struggling to trust your instincts, or having difficulty communicating your needs, therapy may be helpful. You don't have to be in a "bad" relationship to want to understand your patterns and create healthier ones.
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That's okay. You don't need to figure out your attachment style before coming to therapy. We'll look at what actually happens for you in relationships and explore the thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and protective patterns that show up. The goal isn't to put you in a box. It's to help you understand yourself.
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That is one of the goals of this work. We'll focus on building self-trust, recognizing your needs, setting boundaries, regulating relationship anxiety, and staying connected to yourself while being connected to someone else. Becoming more secure isn't about caring less. It's about feeling safer and more grounded in how you love and relate.
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You don't need to come to therapy already knowing whether you should stay or leave. We can slow things down and explore what's happening without me making the decision for you. We'll work on understanding your needs, values, patterns, and what you actually want from your relationship.
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Yes. We'll explore what draws you toward certain relationship dynamics and what may feel familiar or safe about them, even when they aren't meeting your needs. The goal isn't to blame yourself for past choices. It's to understand your patterns so you can make different choices moving forward.
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Sessions are conversational, but we're not just going to talk about what happened that week. I'll help you slow down and notice what's happening internally, explore your relationship history, and identify the protective parts that show up when you feel anxious, disconnected, rejected, or uncertain. We'll also practice exercises and skills you can use outside of therapy so you're building these changes in your everyday life, not just talking about them in my office.
FAQ’s Relationship Focused Indivdual Therapy
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