Attachment-Focused EMDR & IFS
Breakup Therapy in Long Beach, CA, and Virtually across California
Hi! I'm NicoleTherapy for when you lost the one you thought you’d be with forever and trusted with your heart.
Everywhere You Turn, There’s a Reminder of Them.
You walk into your favorite coffee shop, the one you used to go to together, and suddenly, your chest tightens.
The barista remembers your name and asks about them. You freeze, debating whether to leave or pretend it doesn’t hurt.
Endlessly replaying the whole relationship, trying to figure out where you messed up, how you missed the red flags, and how you’re single again.
Scrolling through your phone feels like a minefield—old photos, messages, and popping up in your Venmo trying to investigate if they’re happy and moved on.
Their birthday is still in your calendar, wondering if you should reach out, and if you’ll ever get closure.
Then fast forward, you feel like you’re on the path to healing but then you run into their friend, and tells you your ex is now engaged, and suddenly, you’re back in that heartbreak.
Thinking if you should have fought harder, been different, been better—maybe then, they would have stayed.
Hi, I’m Nicole!
Attachment-Informed EMDR Therapist in Long Beach, CA
Having been through this pain myself, I’ve learned and mastered the most effective therapy techniques to help you come out STRONGER.
Let’s work together to untangle the pain, find closure, and help YOU move forward—not just to get over them, but to reclaim yourself.
What We’ll Work On in Breakup Therapy
Breakups can shake your sense of identity and worth. Using EMDR, IFS (Internal Family Systems), and Attachment-Based Therapy, we’ll help you:
Heal the heartbreak
Gently process painful memories, unresolved grief, and stuck emotions so they no longer weigh you down.Shift negative beliefs
Rewire the inner voice that says “I’m not enough” or “It was all my fault” into something more true—and kind.Break old patterns
Understand why you may have felt drawn to emotionally unavailable or critical partners, and how to choose differently next time.Calm the obsessive loops
So you’re no longer stuck replaying conversations or wondering “what if.”Strengthen boundaries & trust yourself
Learn to listen to your needs, speak up, and walk away from what no longer serves you.Reconnect with hope
Create space for joy, connection, and future relationships—without losing yourself again.
My 3 Phase Approach to Breakup Therapy
Stabilization and Emotional Regulation
Processing & Healing Wounds
Rebuilding Confidence and Moving Forward!
For the overthinkers & deep feelers stuck on their ex.
I use a blend of the most effective therapy approaches (Attachment Informed EMDR & IFS) to help you process, grow, and move forward confidently.
No more replaying or living in constant distraction—it's time for real change. Start Breakup Therapy in Long Beach!
Hoping for Faster Relief? Breakup Intensives in Long Beach for Deep Healing
Some breakups leave more than just sadness—they leave you feeling stuck in a loop. Maybe you’re replaying every conversation, questioning your worth, or struggling to let go even when you know the relationship wasn’t right.
If the pain feels too big for once-a-week therapy—or if you’re ready to move through it now—a Breakup EMDR Intensive might be for you.
As a Long Beach EMDR therapist, I offer 90-minute or 3-hour intensives designed to help you:
Clear out the most painful moments—like the breakup conversation, betrayals, or emotional neglect
Reprocess the parts of you that still feel responsible, rejected, or unlovable
Release obsessive thoughts and create more internal calm
Rebuild a felt sense of worthiness, confidence, and clarity
Start healing your attachment system—so you don’t keep repeating the same cycles
We’ll use EMDR, Attachment-Focused Therapy, and IFS (Internal Family Systems) to help you move through the pain with compassion and finally start feeling like yourself again.
Breakup Intensives are available in Long Beach or virtually throughout California.
$250/hour • 90-minute or 3-hour formats
THE MYTH OF HEARTBREAK
Let me set the record straight…
Time doesn’t heal all wounds.
Distraction won’t heal.
Avoiding won’t heal.
Waiting it out only deepens the patterns of hurt and attachment. Without actively processing the grief and emotional wounds, the past continues to dictate your future.
It can leave you feeling stuck between longing and resentment, between missing them and knowing you deserve better.
If you’re exhausted from the overthinking, the waves of sadness, the moments of anger followed by guilt—I see you and I’ve been there.
Healing is totally possible, and I can help. I mean, technically you can do it alone.. but why would you if you can get the help from a Breakup Therapist!
How Breakup Therapy with Me Can Help You Heal and Move Forward
Process Your Breakup in a Healthy Way! – Work through your emotions without suppressing or getting stuck in rumination. We can develop a personalized plan together to get you through the next 30 days!
Learn tools to manage Sadness and overthinking!– Learn to regulate emotions, quiet racing thoughts, and ease anxiety.
Rebuild your self-worth! – Let go of self-blame and rebuild confidence in yourself and your worth.
Give Yourself the Closure You Deserve! – Gain emotional resolution, even without an apology or explanation from them.
Gain Clarity and Confidence! – Heal, grow, and step into your next chapter feeling stronger and more self-assured.
The first step is scheduling your call with me. I can answer any questions for you then we schedule your 1st session with me!
Start Breakup Therapy as soon as next week!
Breakup Therapy in Long Beach
My Approaches to Processing a Heartbreak
EMDR: Processing Trauma and Emotional Wounds
Helps process and release painful memories tied to the breakup, reducing emotional triggers and building resilience for future relationships.
Internal Family Systems (IFS): Healing Inner Conflict and Regaining Self-Compassion
Encourages a compassionate dialogue with the parts of yourself that feel hurt, angry, or rejected, fostering healing and self-integration after the loss.
Interpersonal Therapy for Depression
Addresses the grief and the changes that come after a breakup. For example, maybe your ex was your everything, your best friend, emotional support, and now having to figure it out without them, and now possibly needing to make new friends or reach out to old ones that were neglected.
Breakup Aftermath… Relatable?
#1
You wake up in a tangle of the eucalyptus sheets you both splurged on from Brooklinen. Their side still smells like them—Dr. Bronner’s and that cedarwood deodorant. Their half-used CeraVe is still in the shower. You keep sleeping in the worn Dodger’s hoodie they left behind, with sadness and a little hope that you’ll be able to give it back one day.
#2
You’re dissecting every text from the last month like it’s a crime scene. Why did they say “I love you” and “I’m not ready” in the same week? Were they already pulling away when they bailed on your birthday dinner? You scroll, reread, zoom in on punctuation like it’ll offer a clue.
#3
You go from sobbing on the shower floor to bingeing Love Is Blind like it's a dedpressive sedative. You know it’s trash. And only reinforces the fact that these men are trash. That’s the point. It drowns out the playlist that used to make you feel close to them—and now makes you wanna say “fuck him”.
#4
You’re already panicking about running into them at your besties upcoming wedding. Do you go and risk seeing them laughing with someone new—or stay home and feel like they took your whole friend group with them? You’ve planned the perfect dress, hair style, and makeup appointment to make sure you look DAMN HOT, and nothing that screams “abandoned.”
How to know when you need Breakup Therapy
Struggling with thoughts about your ex or the breakup.
Feeling stuck in sadness, guilt, shame, or low self-worth.
Difficulty getting through daily life (in work or school, as a friend or parent) due to emotional distress.
Using unhealthy coping mechanisms like avoidance or numbing, drinking, or attention seeking from new people.
Repeatedly returning to a toxic or on-again, off-again relationship.
Need closure to move on, but not getting it
If you are having a hard time sticking to your own boundaries
Avoiding dating or emotional connection out of fear.
And wanting to process the breakup, heal, and grow for future relationships, is enough of a reason :)
Breakup therapy can help you navigate these challenges, rebuilding confidence, and creating healthier relationship patterns for your future relationships.
With Breakup Therapy
in Long Beach…
Healing is not only possible, but it can also be transformative.
Therapy offers a space to process your emotions, understand what you’re going through, and begin to rebuild your life and feel like your self again!
Why Breakup Therapy in Long Beach?
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Feelings of sadness, anger, confusion, and betrayal often surface. It can be challenging to navigate these emotions, leading to overwhelming distress.
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Many people identify themselves partially through their relationship. A breakup can lead to a sense of lost identity and require time to rediscover who they are as individuals.
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The absence of a partner can create profound feelings of loneliness. This can be amplified if the individual relied on their partner for companionship and support.
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After a breakup, negative self-talk can emerge. Individuals might blame themselves for the relationship's end, questioning their worth or desirability.
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Experiences of heartbreak can lead to apprehension about future intimacy, causing fear and anxiety around building new connections.
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It's common to dwell on the good times shared with a partner, leading to regrets about the relationship and what could have been done differently.
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Understanding how to move forward can be one of the hardest parts of a breakup, particularly when unresolved feelings linger.
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Breakups can alter social dynamics, with friends feeling torn between the two parties. This shift can make socializing more complex and uncomfortable.
How Can Breakup Recovery Counseling in Long Beach canHelp…
Processing Feelings in a Safe Place
Break up are so so hard. I offer a judgment free space, to process as much as you need. I get curious with you, and help you to understand and also gain the closure that sometimes you don’t get from your ex.
Learn ways to cope with the changes
I offer suggestions and skills to help you through the discomfort and time that you just want to fast forward to.
Regain Hope
I help explore any negative beliefs you made be holding on to. I used EMDR to process the most challenging parts of your relationship in order to get you feeling more like yourself again, and hopeful for future relationships!
